Its required to say 'no' sometimes!

 Its required to say 'no' sometimes and not required to adjust every time!

This is for those people who always say 'yes' as they are too much concerned about if the other person get hurt! People who selflessly care for others.

In many houses, from childhood we have been encouraged to be a good person . And thus in order to do so we try our best to not to hurt others.Saying yes for all those things that they dont want to do just for the sake of others is sometimes great but can act as disaster too if done always.  Specially girls have taught to adjust and understand which is really very beautiful thing. But why they are not taught when not to adjust?

Have you seen your parents, they dont just adjust ....infact they sacrifice their  life for sake of there kids! They dont buy things for themself first but they always think about their kids what will they like, what they want etc. They won't plan vacation outside as burdened by responsibilities and in the process they get older. Once they are older some kids take them for granted which is heart braking thing.

Ask yourself when did your parents brought their favourite things or when they went to vacation for themself? In the name responsibilty, one forget that it also has certain responsibilty towards himself/herself! 

I am not saying to just completely be selfish person and dont think of kids or other person. I am here to convey fact sometimes its even not necessary to adjust always. Many times both could be taken care simultaneously too.... And sometimes it becomes very necessary to say no specially when your sacrificing and keep on doing it and the other person still feel you didnt did anything special for them!

If parents have concentrated on their own wishes and likes also important they would be happy that they lived their best and even if they get old , there would be no regret ......

 Let it be any relation...it requires certain level of adjustments and understandings...there should be balance between both ....more the understanding of other person less the adjustments needed and viceversa..

If you are adjusting too much but the other person doesnt see your effort and understand you it hurts. And sometimes people adjust too much and sometimes in the name of adjustment one actually sacrifice happiness which is the worst part of the scenario. 

Just imagine a scenario where a girl is been tortured emotionally very much by there in-laws. And at this scenario there family only taught them to adjust. Thus she adjust to that level that she literally sacrifice her happiness, self respect completely. A life lived without happiness is not even can be called as life. There she must take stand for herself because if she dont save herself no one else will gonna do .

And now lets imagine other scenario where girl and boy's background are too much different. Due to which there are difference of opinions, fights and all such stuff. They are not happy. At this stage sometimes it requires a level of understanding what could done to better things up. And both should consider each other perspective seriously and little adjustment can act as wonderful things and can end clashes and bring happiness in relation.

Thus it requires a great level of understanding when to adjust ,when to not, how much to adjust and when to say yes and when to say no...

Yes, it is required to say no too because one cannot always say yes! Thus depend on situations one must act. We cant just force same principle everywhere. We can never be good to all people everytime....

Although love is unconditional but remember tolerance has limits. If you are adjustable and flexible for changes this itself is the best thing . But in the name of adjustment, if you lost your freedom and happiness then comes the problem. Sometimes the other person might not be a good one and might cheat on  you, sometimes other person needs time to realise your efforts, or sometimes they just dont realise your worth. 

We only set our boundaries. If one keeps on saying yes for everything even if we dont like over a period of time it becomes like a heavy burden on our head where you dont have freedom to decide what you want and its like someone else controlling your life .

In the name of love, people get attached, they give importance a lot and that too much is very dangerous specially when the other person doesnt realise your worth and take you for granted.

Anything is fine but not everything is fine. It is required to understand when to say no , when to take step for our happiness, sometimes it needs time and space , sometimes it just a simple no that gives us satisfaction from inside. 

And one more thing if you are with right people they will always be happy even if you say 'no' as they will try to  understand reason behind it.......when you learn to take stand for yourself and try to love life by being true to others and say 'no' when it is truly  required ,you actually feel more happy in life.

Thus it is not necessary to be a people pleasing person and always say yes. Instead one must also learn to say 'no' and understand when to take stand for their own happiness.Buy things what they like, do things what they want, take actions what they think is best.... Because everyone can cheat you but you cannot cheat yourself...Thus anything done for your happiness which is ethical, always multiplies beauty of life.