Confidence is the key!

 Confidence!

10 letter word but has great impact! CONFIDENCE CAN CHANGE THE GAME!

There are multiple cases where in people judge other person by looks, by talk, by education ,by money ,by status, by ability etc...and the victims loose their confidence completely. This not just impact their ability of working but kills all the greater heights of possibilities that they could have reached....

We human beings haven't let a single thing that can remain unjudged...like everything is being judged!

See ...it's not at al practical and possible to be perfect at all corners...and just because people judge  it doesn't mean someone is less then others. 

Every single person born in this world is unique. Perfection is not in looks, status,money or any such things it lies in the eyes who sees it. People can have all the flaws and goodness but it depends on what other person is interested in seeing.

If a fish is being criticised of not flying ....and fish also somewhere thinks it's her mistake or she is unlucky....it eventually kills the beauty of fish....she will loose her confidence slowly....and feel unworthy. At last when she becomes very hard on herself and try to change completely by coming out of water so that she can fly and prove everyone wrong...she comes out of water n soon she dies !

When adapting new habit becomes a herculine task.

Following are the points to adapt any daily habits with ease:

1.Question yourself that what are all new daily habits to be adapted?

This means create a list of all the habits that you want to adapt….like every single  and smallest to biggest one

2.Which one are really very much in need?

Not all daily habits that what we want to adapt comes from our will…we are influenced by people around us and simply want to becomes like others and force ourself which is not a good thing. Because even if we become like others we loose our uniqueness!

3. One habit at one go

Prioritise only one habit first.Adapting new habits gets challenging because it requires to brake the old belief we are attached to… thus dont hurry yourself. Just take one habit work on it and once it becomes your habit with ease then go for other one. For example: If you want to make a habit of reading everyday then untill and unless you read with ease for few days and really feel interested dont adapt another habit of getting up early as chances are there that second habit might take time to develop and by that time you again lost the grip of first habit that you recently cultivated.

Life is when you start living.

 Life is when you start living:

Hello there...Guys its so obvious that we tend to even forget that we are alive! I mean we know it we are alive but majority of times we are stuck with the routine, pressure, responsibilties etc...so much that we often tend to forget to take a breathe of relief , be in the present moment live life to the fullest.

Following are few mindset that people have....some wrong belief n some wrong perspective which restrain life to live to the fullest.

 1.Being more calculative and seeing outcome rather then being happy and enjoying process

When we were kids , we enjoy to the core because we dont create a line of right and wrong .We do what we like ,we do what we want.... if we are thirsty we will ask for water , if we are hungry we will crave for food, we laugh, cry, learn, fall Here there is no logic behind playing, we play because we like it, we enjoy and we are happy.

We wont calculate saying that what is the future of playing games? its sounds so funny but dont we do when we become adult? like we keep asking , being calculative of our time . we choose more things based on knowledge and perception which might work and might not! And very less things based on our happiness.

Self Love

 Self Love: 

Only Love that is not a waste of time. In the entire world we meet so many people...our family,friends ,office colleagues etc. Every relation teach us something or the other. Some are here for selfish motive , some genuinely cares. Getting attached with the wrong person might harm us badly. Thats why the most people after  realises value of self love after breakup or major loss in their life.

Self love is concept in which you are giving all your energy, love,respect, care to yourself. Specially Mothers are in a habit to love others so much that they forget about themself , their needs etc.  which is not a good thing. We only have one life ...we should serve people but there are certain responsibility towards ourself too.

Self love is not selfishness:

Just imagine you are hungry and serving food to others, or you need money but donating it to others. There would be a sense of emptiness within and many times its impossible to serve others what we need and where we are lacking.Instead if you try to love yourself first...you can love others in a much better way..

Depression, anxiety , and all those worries happens because we give importance to others more then ourself.  If a person loves himself fully he will never be sad no matter what life throws at him . 

Bored with daily routine?

 Sometimes we go into same routine daily due to which life becomes boring ..its like their is no excitement or fun . Running behind money taking care of family ...the day ends and soon year passes too quickly. 

Why not lets look into things that make a life a bit intresting and better then we were living?

Following or the things to brake a monotonous life into a fun life.

1. Take a brake.

As simple it sounds but far more magical it is. Why not take a brake for few days and just go and spend time with nature? We take holidays from office for multiple reasons but have we ever taken a single day holiday for our own happiness and freedom?. Its great to be dedicated towards work but work is never ending process and thus a small brake can bring back the fire and craze to work in much more better way. 

Don't be a prisoner of past!

Easy to say, yet hard to adapt!

Yes but dont be a prisoner of past!

Everyone in life face problems... For some even small things have high impact and for others even big things doesn' t even effect as it should.      Problems might not be in our hand but our response and the way we handle it is in our hand. 

But if u ask someone about their painful experience everyone will have something or some other things to share.

Its life. Things will happen...sometime one can experience pain of ill health or sometimes career can be a big mess...sometimes relationship are spoiled or sometimes name and fame or sometimes everything can happen together.

Focus on focus!

 Focus on focus!

Generally people take focus very lightly . But its a great concept which has deeper meanings.

Focus means putting our energy into a particular direction. From learning every small things to achieving  success the basic element required is focus. 

One must understand where there focus should be and for how long and how much. If a person masters this things, he can surely transform his life. 

Out of all negative situations in life no matter what it is, if we focus on positive things we attract more of it and if focus on  negative things the more negativity circumstances arises.

Its required to say 'no' sometimes!

 Its required to say 'no' sometimes and not required to adjust every time!

This is for those people who always say 'yes' as they are too much concerned about if the other person get hurt! People who selflessly care for others.

In many houses, from childhood we have been encouraged to be a good person . And thus in order to do so we try our best to not to hurt others.Saying yes for all those things that they dont want to do just for the sake of others is sometimes great but can act as disaster too if done always.  Specially girls have taught to adjust and understand which is really very beautiful thing. But why they are not taught when not to adjust?

Have you seen your parents, they dont just adjust ....infact they sacrifice their  life for sake of there kids! They dont buy things for themself first but they always think about their kids what will they like, what they want etc. They won't plan vacation outside as burdened by responsibilities and in the process they get older. Once they are older some kids take them for granted which is heart braking thing.

The key to unlock success.

The key to unlock success.

Success:

In life we have certain goals. Those goals gives us satisfaction and joy. For the sake of goals we are ready to sacrifice anything possible. 

Defination of success various from one person to another.For one, success is earning millions, for another it is being popular, for one success is to serve humanity, for another success is to be best at all area of life!

Let it be any goal from being healthy,earning money,gaining popularity, fulfilling desire of becoming something , serving humanity, maintaining good relationship or learning new skills, etc everything can be possible only based on one thing that is Willpower!

Yes willpower is the one of the basic key ingredient required to achive success!

Life and its turns...

 Life is very beautiful....and as it is  beautiful it is more unpredictable too...we never know what happens. It can be best sometimes,it can be worst too. We might feel amazing and suddenly it can give us shock, We might feel sad and suddenly it can be magical too!Life is just so unpredictable!

Health,career,relationship anything at any time can challenge us...sometimes all the things gets messed up at a single stretch!

New job

New job

We all have one thing common in mind that is to earn money and 'To stand on our own legs' as proverb been said and heard. For the purpose of earning we have a concept of choosing right career options so that we will be enjoying while earning. 

Thus choosing right career option becomes one of the major important choice of life. From the childhood kid is prepared to study as much as possible and score highest marks.

Some kids are presurised to choose certain option and perform in a certain way.  At the age 20 to 25 it becomes very hard to manage our studies,job and also to enter into marriage proposals.

Societal Standards.

SOCIETAL STANDARDS

It looks like society had created certain standards and everyone think in the same direction and keep on following without even questioning it.So lets discuss few...

1. To be perfect apperance wise

If a person is not good looking then people doesn't even stay clam for a second and start judging and passes on tons of  advices . Thus everyone claims for perfect figure...like he or she must not to be fat, skinny,ugly,short heighted etc

 But wait a minute does life comes with an instruction guide or have we given choices before we were created ? No right? Then why to be sad for the thing which is not under our control? But if its under our control then we can definitely work for it.

And to those who passes on those silly comments...why the hell are those people bothered about others life? Like if they really care is different story but majority of times they just want to satisfy their ego. 

 And to those poor people who listen to those comments and blame on themself for entire life for not being perfect...guys however we are its God 's gift . And stop blaming yourself. Its like your punishing yourself without your mistake! Each one have their own strength and weakness. Try to love yourself first the way you are...We cannot satisfy entire society but we must definitely be happy within....

Perfection doesn't exist in reality. Everyone have their own flaws. So its beautiful to be imperfectly happy...

A decade back the line...

A decade back the line..

1.Technology

 My mom used to say me that to have  television in their house at their times was such a valuable thing and great symbol of status. And then after certain years when we used to watch television I remember how eagerly we used to wait for our favorite serials  and even used to fight for remote. Now  it feels like television is hanging on wall ,fully bored up and eagerly waiting for someone to  even on it!

10 years back the line to have phone was like to have luxurious car as of now. But now each one has phone! Does it meant each one will have luxurious car after 10 years? Ohh...just kidding...I meant things changes so rapidly ...what today is highly valuable will lose its value after certain years..

It feels like things started becoming smaller from t.v who looks like a box to a t.v which is smart and slim or  from a phone which had weight and having lots of buttons to a light weighted phone with numerous features and slim look or whether its computer which was heavier with too many wires is now been given an option of  laptop which could be easily carried.

 

Competition, comparison and judgements.

 Competition, comparison and judgments...

Competition: 

When we are born we are compared with our siblings, later with friends,colleagues etc,...no matter how great you are but when compared,either you will be better or lesser in the point of view of others. If you are lesser then you will be in a state of sadness,self doubt,lack of self esteem and jealousy. But if  you are in better position then you will be in a state of high ego, high self esteem, over confident and too much proud of yourself. 

Either stage is not good...because of competitions relations are badly effected and indirectly life is effected.

World of criticism...

Criticism...we all have gone through lots of situations of life in which people judge too much, they say like you are not good looking...they say you are fat,thin,ugly etc...and keep on criticising without even understanding its impact on us!

Criticism arises from imperfections. If we are perfect no one will criticize but reality is no one in the world is perfect.  No matter how great we are, people can still judge us from there point of view and can criticize us.

 They might sometimes misunderstand us or might simply do so to pull us down for either to satisfy their ego or just for their own benefits.

Let your each day count!

Let your each day count!

We all know how precious is our life,but sometimes every day is a same old story. Its a rat race which never ends...

  

  There is nothing wrong in following a routine but there is a problem when we forget our smile, when we are not curious to learn new things....when we are not even excited for next day!

Mobile addiction vs Willpower

We are so much trapped by our own mind that when it comes to change for betterment...we try 5 % and expect 100% result!

Mobile is such an amazing device but  only if we use it in proper way. The thing is nowadays if we are free even for a minute....our hand goes subconsciously to pick up mobile and then hours passes off in just scrolling down... Actually we are not scrolling pictures we are scrolling our life down!

If instead of using mobile too much unnecessary ,if we start observing life it would be a grate thing. Life is beautiful it is us who makes it boring! There is nothing called as boredom if we have our company with us!

But when using too much of mobile becomes our habit things go out of control then lets see clash between willpower and mobile addiction. 

Mobile Addiction vs Willpower

1. Mobile addiction: "Hey...check out me... I will show you something trendy and  amazing today"

Willpower: " You are right but hours will simply pass off in checking out so called trendy and amazing thing which is not at all amazing thing!"

2.Mobile addiction: "Lets make a deal to see for 10 mins maximum"

Willpower: "10 mins will become hours, not to take such risk"

Lockdown time

When corona virus came last year it was like so much fear...so much worries.. we never ever thought such things will happen...in this pandemic many had lost their loved ones,their business, their job,their studies etc... 

After 1 year when things had turn out to be normal again same things started happening and again this lockdown began...Hope things turn out favourable soon.

Today I just thought why not share some experience of lockdown. 

Lets learn from kids

 Kids are just amazing. Those notorious thought to create mess or those innocent eyes , those crazy behaviour or those happy smile, their stupid logic or their cute cheeks they are just amazing!

 

When we were kids we used to think when we will get big but now it feels we were at our best during childhood. 

So lets try to learn something from kids..

Perfection vs happiness

We live in a society where perfection is given important role. Everyone wants to be perfect . But does perfection really gives us happiness?

Let me tell you a story of girl ,lets assume her name as 'X',

  'X' was trying to perform best in every single manner. She was studying hard for good grades ,she wanted to go for higher studies and great job and wanted to make her name and identity in society...